Personalizing your vows is a beautiful way to express the love and feelings that you have for each other. It gives a special meaning to the ceremony and lets your guests know that you have put a lot of thought and effort into making your day a special one.

Start off by talking to the clergymember before you begin. You must be sure that you do not go against the beliefs of your religion. He or she may give you original ceremonies for ideas. Some of the most common words written for vows are…. “I will love you, comfort you, and honor you, as long as we both shall live.” These are the traditional words written for most denominations.

As soon as you get permission from the clergymember to write your own vows you will need to sit down in a quite place and think about the things you want to say to each other. You can do this together or separately. What do you want to include? Do you want to write a whole segment or just change a few words? Some of the most popular words in a ceremony are, love, respect, honor, faith, forgiveness, honesty, trust, friendship and fidelity.

Wedding vows are something to take seriously . Try not to get to personal or cutesy. Be careful also that you don't add to the emotional pressures of the day. You already have enough emotions and you don't want to overload yourselves.

Make the vows simple and to the point. Your guests don't want to sit and listen to you telling a life story. Read the vows aloud. Change anything that is tripping you up or sounds awkward. Remember to make a copy of the vows to keep with you on the day of the wedding. Even if you think you have them memorized, you will be nervous and if the words don't come out, pull out the copy.

If you are not going to use any of the traditional words from vows, and you want something different and unique, you will have to do some work. You can pull out parts of several vow segments, mix and match them up to what fits your personalities.
This does take time but the end result will be something you will cherish for the rest of your lives. An example of this type of vow would include your respect for each other and that you would treat each other with kindness and understanding, love and honor each other and promise to be true in good times and in bad.

Remember, this is your day and you want to make it as special as you can. Writing your own vows is one of the most personal ways of doing just that.

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