Traditionally hosted by the groom's parents, the rehearsal dinner is usually a subdued event. The custom of the groom's parents paying for the dinner is based on the desire to show appreciation for the bride's family, who is hosting the wedding reception. Both families certainly can host it.
Creating a guest list can range from just the wedding party and very close friends, to everyone invited to the wedding itself. Of course, the rehearsal dinner should not upstage the wedding itself. Written invitations should be sent out. Unless the dinner is formal, no place cards are necessary. Seating should be open so that everyone can mingle and get to know each other. There may be a cocktail hour before the actual dinner begins. The groom's father makes the first toast and welcomes the guests. The bride's father usually follows him. This is one of the best times for friends and family members to make a toast to the bride and groom. It should take place at the rehearsal dinner so as not to interfere with the reception toasts. This is also the best time to present any gifts that the couple have for their wedding party. It is also a great time to thank their parents and anyone else who needs thanking. The party usually
ends early so that everyone can "rest up" for
the big day.
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The dinner itself can take place immediately following the rehearsal.
The style and theme can be anything the couple and families want, from
a formal sit down dinner to a backyard barbecue. If the groom's family
is from out of town, a restaurant or club is the best choice. 